normalize using whatever gear you like and getting into groups that accept you for who you are

you don't have to be best in the world

if 15 str doesn't make a difference

and you pay your 33$ a month or 28$ a month

just do and wear whatever you want to

if you want to offhand a 2-4 magian weapon instead of a tp+1000 weapon

if you want to use a da/ta/qa set instead of the best single swing set

just get in the groups that accept you for you